Play with mom and aunt
Two grown-ups who both want to join in can be a little too much of a good thing. The child has to keep the thread, split their attention and remember whose turn it is, and the visual support below makes the turn order visible to all three.
♂Play with mom and aunt
A child plays with a ball together with mom and aunt.
About this visual support
When mom and aunt both join the play, everything doubles. Suggestions arrive from two directions, two people are waiting for a response, and the child is supposed to hold on to their own idea of the game in the middle of it. Usually nobody notices a problem until someone is left out, the ball goes to the wrong person, or the child goes quiet and turns away.
Turn-taking is the first thing to fall apart in that situation, and it is also what visual support handles best. A simple row of pictures showing who does what and in which order gives the play a rhythm that does not have to be negotiated in words every time. It helps the adults as much as the child, because it becomes obvious when to hold back and let the other one take a turn.
One small thing with a big effect: let the child move a marker along the pictures to show whose turn it is. Then the child is the one holding the order rather than the one being steered by two grown-ups. In Routined you can set up shared play like this with pictures and turn order, and try the app for fourteen days at no cost.