Sit still at the table
The plate is empty long before the conversation is over, and the rule about staying seated runs on somebody else's pace than the child's. The pictures below show what happens before you may get up, so the end of the meal becomes visible.
♂Boy staying seated at the table
A boy sits with his hands on the table, while a crossed-out picture shows that leaving the seat is not okay.
About this visual support
The food is gone. The plate stands empty, the glass is drained, and still you are meant to stay in your chair because the others are talking. It is one of the harder everyday rules, because its logic is invisible: nothing in the child's own experience says the meal is still happening.
Visual support moves the rule off the adults' tempo and onto something shared. A short strip of pictures for the last part of the meal can show finishing the food, drinking up, carrying the plate over and then asking whether you may leave. Staying seated is no longer open-ended waiting but four pictures that apply to everyone at the table.
One concrete move is to make the last picture the child's own question, asking permission to leave the table. That gives something to do during the wait rather than only something to refrain from. If it stalls, shorten the closing stretch of the meal at first and let it grow. In Routined the table routine can sit as its own sequence you open at dinner.
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